I have been interested in minimalism for a while. Before I started reading up on it, I figured it mostly meant getting rid of most of your stuff and having a beautiful, but mostly empty house. WRONG. I am all in for functional minimalism, which means that you just get rid of the extra. You are mindful of what you are buying. I recently added one more part to this definition: using the special stuff.
See, here was my problem. It is a problem I’ve had all my life. I would get something (usually as a gift) and I would save it because it was special. That meant I had notebooks I would never write in, fancy clothes I would never wear, and toys I never played with. This problem has followed me into adulthood.
But I recently had a realization. I needed to use the special stuff and enjoy it instead of stashing it away to be safe. My daughter helped me realize this. See, most kids love using their special stuff. Mac has been wanting to wear her special, fancy Christmas dress on a normal day.
At first, I balked. It was special! It wasn’t meant for a school day where it might get dirty! What was she thinking?
Then I realized that she was right. When else was she going to wear it? It probably won’t fit next year for Christmas. Should it just hang in her closet until I decide to get rid of it because it no longer fits? No! It should be worn and enjoyed!
So I started to apply that to my own life. My grandmother is so incredibly handy that she is always knitting or crocheting. She crocheted a queen size bed cover and gave it to me. It was so beautiful that I was afraid of putting it on my bed. I mean, I frequently have children in my bed who can’t always control their bodily fluids. What if something happened to it?
Well, I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it because I finally took it out of the bag and spread it on my bed. And every single time I look at it, it makes me happy. My grandma made it to be used and so I am using it.
When I sat down to write this post, I was reminded of an exchange from Home Alone 2 when Kevin is talking to the Bird Lady.
Bird Lady: I’m just afraid if I do trust someone, I’ll get my heart broken.
Kevin McCallister: I understand. I had a nice pair of rollerblades. I was afraid to wreck them, so I kept them in a box. Do you know what happened? I outgrew them. I never wore them outside. Only in my room a few times.
Bird Lady: A person’s heart and feelings are very different than skates.
Kevin McCallister: They’re kind of the same thing. If you won’t use your heart, who cares if it gets broken? If you just keep it to yourself, maybe it’ll be like my rollerblades. When you do decide to try it, it won’t be any good. You should take a chance. Got nothing to lose.
Whether it is something physical like rollerblades or something more metaphorical like a person’s heart and emotions, it is made to be used. So use it!
I’ve decided to document my adventures in using the special things in my life. The first thing I’ve done is create a hashtag where you can follow along and use on your own adventure into using special things. You can follow me on Instagram. I will hashtag my special things with #usethespecialeveryday. Follow along and contribute.
The second thing I’ve done is create a free, 7 day email challenge so you can start using your special too. Just put your email address in the box below, hit subscribe, and you’ll see me in your inbox soon!
This is going to be a very honest post. Blogging can be great. My blog started as a place where I posted stories about my family and shared information about Mac when she was a baby. It morphed into something bigger when I started to share some of the unconventional parenting things we were doing like not using a bucket seat, having a floor bed, and sharing what Montessori means. This blog has been an amazing outlet for my writing and I have enjoyed sharing my ideas and thoughts here. Until last week, when inspiration didn’t strike.
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Minimalism is still a relatively new concept for Andrew and I. Listen to us chat about striving to be minimalist parents and what inspired us in the first place.
The More of Less by Joshua Becker
The Magical Art of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo
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I never thought I would call myself a minimalist. I have always been the Queen of Too Much Stuff. Once, I packed 12 pairs of shoes for a week-long mission trip in high school. To be fair, each pair had an outfit or a purpose, but gosh my suitcase was heavy. I have seasonal decorations for each and every season and holiday during the year. I even have extra decorations for some of the bigger holidays.
But then something happened. I had a baby. When I found out I was pregnant, I was determined not to be one of those families that triples their belongings simply because there is a kid in the family. For one thing, we didn’t have any space. I was already taking up all of the storage space in our small townhouse with my own stuff. For another thing, frankly, I was sick of being surrounded by stuff.
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With the holiday season on the horizon, now is the time to start brainstorming gift ideas. Gift guides for kids of all ages are easy to find. Most of them contain a long list of the popular toys of that year. But what about gifts that aren’t just toys, especially if you want to buy the entire family a gift? That is where my non-toy gift guide for the entire family comes in.
(Click to read why I don’t want people to buy my kid toys for Christmas)
This gift guide is designed for entire families. Whether you are parents buying for all of your children or an aunt, uncle, grandma, grandpa, etc. who wants to buy something for an entire family, this gift guide is for you. Presents for the entire family don’t have to be big or expensive to satisfy everyone.
If you want to read non-toy gift guides for other ages, make sure you check out my Non-Toy Gift Guide for Babies, Non-Toy Gift Guide for Toddlers, Non-Toy Gift Guide for Preschoolers, and Non-Toy Gift Guide for Elementary Aged Kids.
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With the holiday season on the horizon, now is the time to start brainstorming gift ideas. Gift guides for kids of all ages are easy to find. But what if you don’t want to just buy the latest popular toy for a child? Or what if you are a parent who is highly critical of the toys your child plays with? That is where a non-toy gift guide comes in.
(Click to read why I don’t want people to buy my kid toys for Christmas)
This gift guide is designed for children ages 6-10. By this age, children should be old enough to understand a balance of gifts you can unwrap and gifts you can’t (like an experience or a ticket to something happening in the future.)
If you want to read non-toy gift guides for other ages, make sure you check out my Non-Toy Gift Guide for Babies, Non-Toy Gift Guide for Toddlers, Non-Toy Gift Guide for Preschoolers and Non-Toy Gift Guide for Families.
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I have been making slow progress decluttering my whole life after reading “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” by Marie Kondo. The KonMari method is unlike any other I’ve tried before. (To read a little more about my previous progress, read part 1 here and part 2 here.) It is also working so much better than the other methods I have used.
To sum up, you ask yourself if each item you own sparks joy. If it doesn’t, you get rid of it. This has been extremely helpful to me because I enjoy thinking that someone else may discover something I have donated and it could bring them joy. You are also supposed to finish discarding first. This is the step I am still on and that I still struggle with. I don’t have the time or energy to go through every single thing I own at once. But I am trying to take large chunks of my house (like one whole closet or an entire bookshelf) and going through it all at one time.
So, let me show you what I accomplished this weekend.
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Minimalism sounds like a scary word. When I first heard it, I imagined having to give up everything. As I sat surrounded by all of my unnecessary stuff, I quickly dismissed it as a nutty idea for hipsters and hippies alike. Who wants to give away their clothes and childhood mementos?
But then something changed. I had a daughter and all of my priorities shifted. I want to spend my time with Mac, not working to pay for our house and all of our possessions. So I have slowly been going through my things and getting rid of what I don’t need.
Recently, I was given a copy of The More of Less by Joshua Becker to review. It has totally rekindled the spark of minimalism within me. Right away, Becker introduces his journey to minimalism by using the phrase “You don’t need to own all of this stuff.” What a powerful phrase! Right when I read it, I knew this was the book for me.
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I am working towards being a minimalist in my entire life. It might be a struggle, but I am definitely a minimalist when it comes to raising a child. There were plenty of things that were “must-haves” that we didn’t buy and haven’t missed. One thing we did accumulate, however, was cloth diapers. Now, I have been good and I don’t have a ginormous stash (although it is hard not to buy every single cute cloth diaper I find), but I have found three cloth diaper accessories that we couldn’t live without. One can even be used with disposable diapers too. (Make sure you take a listen to my cloth diapering 101 podcast.)
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A while ago, I posted about trying to tidy up my house. (Read about it here.) I have been re-reading The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo and attempting to apply it to my life. So I think it is time for an update.
Overall, I feel like it is going really well. But decluttering is a slow process. Kondo recommends doing it all at once, but I just can’t do that. Not only do I work full-time and have a daughter and a house to care for, I also spend a lot of time working on my blog. When the weekend comes, I feel like we can either have a fun weekend or a productive one. And most of the time, I will pick a fun one. But I was finally able to be productive and start in on the second chapter of the book: Finish Discarding First.
See that giant, stuffed full bag of clothing? I donated that. Plus 3 other boxes of stuff! (And P.S. to anyone who might not know, keep a list of things you donate and you can write them off on your taxes.)